Date someone special from California, United States. i saw a refrigerator magnet recently...it featured a picture of an elegant but clearly exasperated woman sitting in an upscale shoe salon surrounded by open boxes and their rejected contents...the caption read, "life is a flash of light between two eternities of darkness-just buy the f****** shoes!"...struck by the metaphorical richness of this ostensibly capricious statement, i realized immediately that i'm looking for someone who can derive profound emotional satisfaction from a fearless exploration of the infinite possibilities for philosophical discourse contained therein...
Meet single man from California, United States. soul mates . doing things together ,givingreciving each having there space when its needed ,undrestanding the others point of view over timetalking together.giving unselfly .just geting to know the mates way of life.there is not any big I or little U .
Date a man from California, United States. The other night, good friends over for dinner... fig-olive tapenade fresh cheeses (and ros?) on the patio, then chicken with spiced figs, spinach with pine nuts, warm goat cheese salad, a variety of wines, and lemon pudding cake using lemons from my tree... grateful to the friendships, grateful for the abundance.
My unusual work frequently takes me... or I take it... on the road. Last autumn places visited (and scouted) included Paris, Barcelona, and Boston. I am so fortunate to be able to get away. But I am also happy to be back home, too, and to settle into my quiet life of exercise (walking, spinning at the Y), getting together with friends and colleagues, working in my office.
I strive to be kind and caring, independent, secure, generous. I watch almost no television. I am blessed with extraordinary friends and a loving and supportive family (six siblings). Although I cherish solitude, I am also enriched by conversation. I am moved more by syncopation than the standard 4/4. I like to read while I exercise (except while swimming). . My muscle car is a minivan (great for hauling boxes, friends, kids). I have cared for myself for years. I move everyday-- a walk, a spinning class at the Y, etc. I am a funny man. I do not know boredom.
I want to travel more, to do volunteer work, to get back out on the dance floor (salsa! swing!). I enjoying cooking, especially for a woman or for dear friends, and to spend an evening lingering over the remains of a meal, the remains of the day, a good bottle of wine, deep or silly talk. Then some funk or Mo-town sounds...
I seek the intimate, monogamous long-term companionship of a woman who is funny, sensual, who has a sense of irony and satire, who is compassionate to herself and to others; conscious and conscientious; tender and erotic; generous and enthusiastic; an enemy of bombast, pretension and pompousness; resilient and self-reliant; romantically aggressive, romantically receptive.
I am seeking warmth, in all of its incarnations... the warm embrace, the warm smile... I want to be seen... to listen and be listened to. To have the attention and focus of a partner (without any friggin' smartphone in the room!) Then there is that elusive but very potent chemistry...
Meet a soulmate from California, United States. Honestly this sometimes feels like Costco (Amazon?) for dating. I come shrink wrapped for your convenience. Our guys will place me in your vehicle or free shipping! Or more likely you would have to buy a dozen men in a giant package. Then maybe you'd use one or two and throw away the rest. What a waste!
Enough about shopping. What should you know about me? I am playful, funny, affectionate, creative - with a bit of an edge. Ever evolving. I'm an architect, published author, and lover of food, wine and conversation. Books, the arts, music, and ideas are important to me. I can be very funny, but also sensual and kind. Capable of falling deeply in love. Youthful and irreverent, ethical and idealistic. Irony is a strong suit. My politics are leftish, but perhaps conservative for Berkeley. I don't wear patchouli oil or drive a beat-up old volvo with a thousand bumper stickers. Such as "US out of my uterus!" "Nader 2000" No birkenstocks, no psychobabble. No recumbent bicycle. I eat granola but I am not "granola." When everyone starts thinking and saying the same things I get all skeptical. Call me a sexy iconoclast.
Let me add that I work and play in SF so I'm not stuck on one side of the bridge (except during earthquakes - I have a good story about that.)
I have a domestic side: let me cook for you and play the piano (not at the same time.) I love to horse around with children and dogs. I'm handy around the house and can actually sometimes fix things - with power tools! I'm in good shape so you get physical and intellectual muscularity in one witty package!
My work is important to me. My home in the berkeley hills is charming. I'm a dedicated lifelong learner. My adult children have flown the coop but we are very close.
I’m really good at puzzling things out. planning trips. cooking. Seeing the big picture, thinking creatively. Learning new things. Big imagination. Big vocabulary. Big....?
I'm funny but I don't tell jokes. Making unexpected connections between things is the source of my humor. People either laugh out loud or look puzzled.
You'll appreciate my uncanny gift for finding street parking when others can only throw up their hands.
Food? I'll eat anything, even tripe. Love seafood. You wouldn't believe the things I've eaten in china. Snakes, roaches. I draw the line at rabbit, however. Cannot eat bunnies.
Fav authors include Ian McEwan, JM Coetzee, Philip Roth, Anne Tyler, Jennifer Egan, Salman Rushdie, Jane Smiley, Haruki Murakami. I listen from jazz to opera. Bill Evans, John Coltrane, Miles, Mozart, Chopin, Jimi H on the the blues guitar.
Movies: Big Coen bros fan but wasn't swept away by their latest (not ironic enough?) I love Almodovar even the latest really creepy one. Akira Kurasawa. Turturro. Independent and foreign films but I'm not immune to thrillers and car chases. I liked Tinker Tailor and thought it was the best movie of the year.
I'm looking for a relationship in which there is love and forgiveness and mutual support. The constant flow of loving communication. Connection on every level. Lots of fun, happy, sex!
Date someone special from United States. Easy going ,Iam quiet some times ,I smile inside when I am able to help some one in need .I have been blessed with being here.Iwould like for someone to be as close to being my SOUL MATE as possable .I do my best to be openminded .
Meet single man from United States. I'm one of those "practical idealist" type! I know, somewhat of an oxymoron, but it probably defines me best - a noncomformist, some may say rebel in a very conservative organization ( nothing more conservative than medicine or the military). I like what I do most of the time but the job does not define me. Just doing my part.
I have eclectic taste and tend to be an “ out of the box” type of thinker. As a MB type, I would be an INFJ – I’m intuitive, care about people , believe in humanity, and the “one earth, one people” concept. Life sometimes is not fair, but people can always be!
I love to travel and I have been fortunate enough to do so, from backpacking locally in the Sierras to foreign shores and even the Antarctica. I appreciate the people and culture but hate the political system that seem to subvert the collective will of the masses. I blend in well with most situations - I'm house trained and you can take me out! ( I know, it sounds like I'm talking about my dog!) I tend to do the "off the beaten path" type of trips but I am starting to learn to appreciate the "tour guide/camera over the neck" types also - its a wonder what maturity ( i.e old age) will do for you!
I’m not into sports but I do appreciate talent. I choose indie/foreign films over the Hollywood types. I love sushi and rock n roll, but not together. I’m politically and religiously neutral most of the time – but don’t get me started!
I am actually very grateful and feel blessed ( not in the religious way) that I have been able to be where and what I am today. Yes, it did come from old fashion hard work (I earned it!) and perseverance! I would love to share my life with someone who has a sense of self and a good moral compass (for our travels! i.e-old fashion values, not religious righteousness.)!
As you may surmise by now - I don't take myself seriously and you likewise. Everything is negotiable. The only thing we should take seriously is our relationship!
Shalom/Salaam in all its fullness!
Ray
Date a man from United States. When I left Memphis—that Rhythm & Blues town steeped in ghosts from Civil War to segregation—I was a young man landing in Berkeley with only a backpack and $200. I thrived here, where the streets were paved with flowers, and bookstores swimming in poetry. I later left for the hills of Mendocino and stayed for 20 years. Two glorious daughters and thousands of friends later, I decided to reinvent myself once again. My beauties are both in college now, and I am perched on a hill once more. This time I view bridges, and Sutro Tower, and Mt. Tamalpais rather than redwoods cascading to the coast. It suits me here, yet movies with bonfires and people singing �round the fire still give me pangs of community’s void. I find it more solitary here and friendships more ephemeral. But those local friends I have are kin, and deep, and everlasting.
For me, family and connection is paramount. Coming from such a large family, I am often visiting a cousin somewhere or more likely someone is coming from the Deep South to San Francisco giving me the opportunity to entertain.
I have followed my daughters to visit them in Barcelona and Buenos Aires, Alaska and Santa Monica. They have coaxed me far afield to places I may not have otherwise gone—both brilliant vagabonds. And my own travels have taken me on pilgrimages to Cairo and Luxor, Croatia and Cinque Terra. There is a wonderful medieval village on an island near Split called Trogir. Soon I will celebrate my best friend’s 60th birthday in Tuscany, Venice, and Naples. I try to visit the Big Isle once every other year or so, to Puna. But family trips keep me busy—to Tuscaloosa, Memphis, Portland and lately Las Vegas… Heh-heh, never expected to like it, but have had so much fun there.
I think of myself as a kind and gentle soul, a bit of an artist. You may own some of my finely polished wooden kitchen utensils—I produced for ten years while I lived in Mendocino and sold them all over the Bay Area to galleries and such. I later became a graphic designer and eventually a magazine editor.
And now, these days, somewhat introspective, but still very active and outgoing. Not as constant a book reader as I once was, maybe more of a “content absorber.” I’m well wired to Mac devices. (A Mac consultant on the side.) But I do know authors and can converse on a broad range of topics. Currently reading Barbara Kingsolver's "The Lacuna".
A friend once told me on her list for a partner was that they like a drink, nice to be able to unwind and watch a sunset together. I'll second that! So, let’s meet. You won’t be sorry. I’m not out to marry you... at least right away.
Meet a soulmate from United States. I'm a warm and passionate guy. I am a high energy type.I spent 30 years in IT but I am an artist at heart and have many interests that keeps me busy. I love music and enjoy cooking. Hiking and walking are my main form of exercise. I just joined a gym, we'll see how that goes!
I'm interested in someone with a certain sensibility. Someone who enjoys food and is interested in the Arts. Looks aren't that important, presence is.