Date someone special from Solana Beach, United States. OK, I get it, a separated man is still a married man and the history of relationships precedes me. So, if you feel unsure, please remember me, I'll be here when the legal part is over. If it took 1 year to heal for every 7 years married, I'd pack it up until about 2017. Don't expect me to deny my emotions out of the past, but trust me to have maturity and wisdom. I wouldn't feel right about being completely intimate with a woman while I'm dating others, and I haven't, but for the record, I think celibacy is overrated;) I've learned what it takes for a relationship to succeed (some things the hard way). I try to be attentive, kind, giving, gentle, sincere and loving. I am honest, loyal, reliable, ambitious, emotionally brave, smart, sometimes interesting and funny, and oh yes, humble. I'm looking forward to every chance I get to be met and evaluated. If we meet each other and think, "yes, there is something going on here that feels good," I want us to be honest about important things up front. Let's figure out if we really dig each other right away. Tell me your deal breakers, I'll tell you mine. Tell me your plans, everything you think matters, I'll listen to you. Anything you want to know, just ask. Also, my photos are dated, please tell me if your photos aren't recent.
I currently live in two places, but unless you want to move there too, I'm only looking for someone in the San Diego area, because in the not too distant future, I will be making it my home. We need to live close enough to be able to easily see one another.
I'll be scheduling my time primarily in San Diego, but also Coarsegold and the central coast for about 3 days a month until I change it. I'm often in touch with loving family, good friends, happy clients and I'm loving life, but I prefer the companionship of an intelligent, fantastic woman;)
I spend many hours driving each month and listen to books on audio cd's, AKA drive college. When I'm in my mountain home I enjoy playing piano, drums (can't do it in the city) and a bit of singing. I have recently taken up yoga and swim as often as I can to stay in shape and surf with my son (the ocean shows no mercy). Aside from my computer genius 25-year-old son, I also have an environmentalist extraordinaire 27-year-old daughter;)
I respect women who live independently and have made a life for themselves, and I appreciate and love the wisdom they bring. As far as a long term commitment, I know someday, someone is going to have me to count on, for the love and support that I have always given, but I am free now to experience life outside of marriage, and from the profiles I've read, there are wonderful, unselfish, clever, funny, strikingly honest, beautiful women available to share time with me.
My life's been satisfying, beautiful, and is full of people I love, this is my new beginning.
I'm not perfect, and I'm realistic about how relationships work, but hopefully, some of the traits we could share would be kindness, a sense of humor even while dealing with adversity, being loving, honest, helpful, passionate, active, fun loving, and patient. But not all at once.....
I'm looking for someone that I find physically attractive and can join me in activities more demanding than walking.A person that tries not to pre-judge, and is appreciative of the diversity of people.A music lover would be nice.If you love yourself, are close to your children,and value friendship, we'll be on the same first page.By our age, wisdom, experience,confidence can probably be assumed from both of us.I haven't dated for 35 years so I'm still learning,but I'm outgoing, very receptive,and understanding of people and life's foibles.I don't drink much, usually I'm the designated driver, but I played and sang in a band for years so if you want to, I can celebrate with the best of em'.
The beautiful thing is, this is about love, we all deserve it. Let's not give up.
All my best,
Budd
Meet single man from Solana Beach, United States. About me, hmmmmm...Loving, caring, a good listener, intelligent conversationalist, great sense of humor ( I even laugh at myself when I do stupid things), family man, Christian, patient, easy going and not hard to get along with at all. I can get quiet at times, lost in thought somewhere, but for the most part I am attentive. No, I'm not perfect, nor am I any God's gift to anyone, I am just me. I'm happy with my life, I'm still learning and growing and what's missing is someone to share experiences with. Some of the passions I enjoy are cooking, (and I'm not just a grill and fry cook, but I can really throw down in the kitchen when the mood hits) photography (not just a point and shoot guy) and fishing. I love the outdoors and will pack some light camp gear, get the dog and head for the hills. There is nothing like sitting by a campfire on a clear, dark night, gazing at the stars and talking with God.
I believe starting any relationship begins with respect. Hopefully through mutual respect a friendship of trust can develop and whatever grows from that, we have yet to discover. I'd like to go as far as we can take each other and that might be only a first date or it could be till death do us part. There is an old saying "opposites attract" but I'm from the school of thought that says "birds of a feather, flock together." meaning that there needs to be some compatibility for us to succeed. I won't try and force a relationship I know won't work. If I'm not meeting your needs, spiritual, emotional, physical, financial or whatever, or you mine, why push it? I think if we start out as friends, and love doesn't blossom, we can still be friends. I know relationships can get complex but I try to keep it simple as possible. What I'd like to find out about you is what makes you laugh, what makes you smile, what are your likes, your dislikes. What are your favorite flowers, your favorite colors......I don't know, I enjoy the discovery. It's more fun to observe and ask than giving you a checklist to fill out.
I have plenty to say and could write endlessly about who I am and what I'm about. But really, if you're interested then that's up to you to discover. I'm only trying to pique an ounce of your interest and if you need to have some questions answered.....then ask on and I'll give them as honestly as I can. But then I'll expect the same from you also. I'll tell you now, I'm not in here looking for a one sided relationship. Like that old Teddy Pendergrass song....it's got to be 50/50....but that doesn't mean that if you're down I won't carry you, I'll have your back, and that's what friends do for each other anyway.
So let me close this by saying, if you haven't hit the back arrow yet and are still reading this, thanks for taking a peek at my humble profile. If you have an itch and you think I can scratch it, give me a holler. We can get together for some coffee, tea, a jamba and see where we'll go from there. If not, I wish you the best in finding that one you are searching for...peace!