Date men from United States / California / Solvang, 40 year old

Date single man from California, United States. Hmmm, about me... Let's see: I write for a living; I love to cook (especially for others); I spend a lot of time outside (climbing, surfing, mountain biking and exploring...), but own an iron and a few decent shirts and clean up sufficiently to introduce to friends and family without too terribly much anxiety; and I'm looking for someone with whom to build the kind of relationship in which we can share a secret, knowing smile from across the room when we're at a party together...
I'd love to meet a woman who is kind, compassionate, gracious, adventurous, involved in the world, possessed of a rapier-like wit, isn't afraid to call me on my nonsense, and really smart.
Intelligence and inquisitiveness are exquisitely, profoundly attractive, and I'm drawn to confident, self-possessed women who are deeply comfortable with themselves. Emotional availability and a willingness to explore the dynamics of a relationship honestly and openly manner are important qualities for me in a partner.
In my experience, a well-calibrated sense of the absurd; a capacity for laughter and silliness; and a spark of spontaneity all go far in allowing a relationship to flourish and evolve- I mean, yeah, certainly, this whole love thing is serious stuff, but maintaining space for sheer and simple joy and pleasure is real important, too.
Beyond cooking and playing outside, I'm also into gardening, good wine, conversation, reading, playing Scrabble, exploring the Central Coast’s backcountry and beaches, searching for Chanterelles in season, and travel (local, domestic, international)...
The world is a remarkable place, and life, given half a chance, is regularly astounding. I hope to find someone who is genuinely excited about exploring and experiencing the whole wild universe together...