Date women from United States / California / Shadow Hills, 45 year old

Date someone special from Shadow Hills, United States. "Know Thyself" the inscription at the Oracle of Delphi, Greece
I have a published in romance and have a few award winning plays. Prof stage actor and director, teacher, prof equestrian- I now work at a therapeutic riding center and have gone back to school. I have never thought of myself limited because of my gender, except I can't do a pull-up anymore. I do really see people beyond the limits of physical appearances, though I sometimes judge on how one uses words and actions. I do not have much patience for meanness, discrimination, irresponsibility and complacency. I consider myself adventurous but not crazy. The present difference, rather then twenty years ago, is that now I wear a helmet. I am prompt. I do what I say to the best of my ability. I know how to say I'm sorry and mean it, and I have learned that I do not always have to be right.
I am a person of honor, dignity and loyalty, I am energetic, fierce, intense, playful, honest and a really good friend. I have made some poor choices, learned from mistakes. I have a great laugh, love to joke around (not at other's expense unless you don't mind the teasing) very very creative as I believe I have a sense of artistry in all that I do. I have been an excellent mother, and I have a beautiful, magical, precocious son who is at my soul's center. I do now have energy, time and willingness to involve a life partner, I am wanting to participate fully with intimacy and realism. Open to casual dating and fun too!
I am a passionate, hard-working, very honest and loyal person. I really hope someone can accept me the way I am and not try and change me to fit an ideal of a fantasy of what they think I am. I rarely talk about superficial things. I'm fascinated about how things work, how people think, origin and source, culture and society, imagination, spirituality, working on self, solving riddles.
I am looking for a truth-seeker, a strong man of wit and will, a man who thinks of himself different from most, a person passionate about life and honest to himself and others around him. A man who is not afraid of a smart, sweet, loving, compassionate, independent female and who is looking for an equal- not a mother figure or a servant. No egomaniacs, flakes, or narrow-minded beings need apply. Friends first is a must. Humor, humor, humor. Please, be positive, truthful (I mean really truthful) and not afraid to take a chance. I believe in love, especially love of self first which then translates to love of others. I want to experience a meaningful, ethical, honoring relationship where both partners feel bouyant from the other, not supressed or non-authentic.
Wow, a little heavy on the re-read. How about coffee first?