Date men from United States / California / Richmond, 56 year old

Date a soulmate from Richmond, United States. I have tried to re-write this several times and each effort sounds increasingly obtuse.
Not sure that I know what I am looking for. I, like some of you, thought I had met that someone special, but it didn't work. That loss helped me gain some perspective of myself, and I have become stronger and a much better person as a result. The way I am perceived isn't necessarily the way I am. I am complex, but not difficult. I love to have fun.
I am not sure what's next. I can say flat out that I thoroughly enjoy the company of an intelligent, confident woman- for something as simple as a latte on Solano to dinner at Chez Pannise to walk along the Bay. I adore women. My closest friends are women. One of whom encouraged me to try this.
I have a bit of a dual career; they seem juxtaposed, but really compliment each other. I create and present programs to Fortune 500 companies; and I write and perform comedy. While I enjoy being around groups of people, I prefer 1:1 so you can get to know someone.
I guess I am seeking "at least" an equal; with a sharp wit and strong charisma- that goes a long way with me. Someone to share "our" private joke. A cute butt helps (hey, at least I admit it).
Oh, while I "never" drink, "Papa don't preach". I am into total health and fitness; alcohol stymied my goals. I'll order, smell, pour and buy- but I'll be having Pelligrino. Suffice to say you'll have a sober driver. My friend told me I should explain this as it might be a red flag to some women. To me, it's a green flag. I am still into viticulture.
Anyway- I want to say I don't seem as goofy in person as I look in these pictures.
Cheers and good luck.

Meet someone special from Richmond, United States. I'd like to know of the important people, places and ideas that shape you, that inspire you. How bout a cup of coffee or glass of wine at JL Quinn's Lighthouse in Oakland. Nice marine backdrop, boats, seabirds and Jack London's inkwell still drying over at the bar. We can share reflections on the journey. I like you, have known the "thrill of victory and the agony of defeat". It's the reflected upon take aways that make conversation and glass of wine worth the price of admission, no? If we enjoy one another's company and are feeling energetic... how about a morning kayak on the bay then brunch on the back deck. More energetic still.... a bike ride from Occidental over to Hwy 1 and back along the Russian River. Redwoods, apple orchards, vineyards, ocean and river It's a huff but worth the push. Unlimited, ways to launch a friendship.
Adventures undertook or in progress for me: Held my newborn kids to the sky Kunta Kinte style, still love most everything about them as young adult people. Built harpsichords to satisfy my love of Baroque, in particular, Bach's drive, intelligent faith and passion. Ran a mobile medical clinic in the interior of Paraguay among Guarani speakers in recent years. Built and ran a factory in the highlands of Jalisco. Grew teams who built green, affordable, co-housing projects in the bay area. Just bought a home who's decks overhang the bay. Grebes and cormorants, float, just out there, Neruda or Allende at hand while I sip a dark Chilean wine and picture a partner with whom to plan next projects. BTW: The gulls enjoy my humor and my parents think I'm handsome.
To do list: A dream that lingers is to sail along the Pacific coast to Patagonia ala "180 Degrees South". Caveat, I make some dreams come true. Grow a business that remodels senior's homes safe, independence. Hear your dreams, modify mine and plan ours.
Bigger picture is that my good friend becomes my confidante, lover and best friend for the long haul. If the Match algorithmic Gods bring lightning...nice.... or... perhaps something more like bread rising slowly on a spring morning, I want to be present.