Date men and women from United States / California / Newcastle, 41 year old

Date a soulmate from California, United States. I am athletic, love to cook, garden, and travel to my timeshares. I love to stay physically fit and expect the same in return. When I am not hard at work, with my children, or hanging with my friends, I like to be with someone who is just as adventurous as myself in all aspects of life; be it skydiving or to a simple hike in the Amazon or hanging out at my timeshares with me. I am independent and squared away and I'm looking for the same in a man. I am comfortable going Dutch with expenses, but I am not interested in supporting a man or picking up the tab.
A well-groomed man is important. Looks are too, but not as important as hygiene. I don't think that's too much to ask.
The club scene is not my thing, but I do like getting dressed up and attending socials around town; for example: a New Year's Party, Mystery Theater Dinners, out to eat on dinner boat at Old Sacramento or to San Francisco to walk hand-in-hand through Pier 39 or China town.
I feel like I am an optimistic person moving through the fast lane of life...I do not want to waste my precious time going 45mph behind someone in the slow lane. I want to move ahead to destinations unknown and always taking time to park under the moonlight be it at lover's lane or just to star gaze and talk til the wee hours of the morning.