Date women from United States / California / Oceanside, 36 year old

Date a soulmate from California, United States. I'm fun, kind, loyal and generous. I work to LIVE but not live to work. I'm happy with my life and decided that I'm ready to meet some new people. Since I'm not aggressive, shy at first and I don't talk to random guys out and about, I'm here to try and give this a go. For a shy person, it's easier to write first than strike up a conversation in a grocery store.
Sometimes I wonder how I grew up so quickly. Then I realized I've been having such a great time living my life with some bumps along the way. I do believe that age is just a number and you are only as old as you feel and look (which means, I think I'm in my late-twenties :). I think you need to have time alone at some point in your life to figure out who you are and what you want.
What I'm looking for, someone who is kind, a gentleman (I refuse to think they are a dying breed), generous, loyal, fun with a good heart. Someone with the not so common "common sense". No games please. Looking for a man not boy and I don't mean by the definition of age. Someone who has lived a full life, has some good stories but is ready to meet ONE person to be with and continue that full life. Someone who takes care of themselves physically, drug free, eats moderately healthy and doesn't spend all day playing video games or watching TV.
I'd like to find a partner in crime and best friend. When you are with the right person, you can have fun doing anything from watching a movie, going to a game, dancing, walking the dogs or fixing the sink.
Do I expect to meet someone on here, no. When things are supposed to happen, they will. However, they won't happen unless you make an effort.
Also, I'd prefer to meet some who is already established and settled in CA. It took me a while to establish myself here and I would prefer not to have to uproot myself. I'm not completely opposed to relocating but I have a great life here.
Finally, I don't like dating people who smoke (cigarettes or any other products). If you want to know why, ask.