Date men and women from United States / California / Riverbank, 55 year old

Date someone special from United States. I am not currently paying to subscribe to this service. This may hold up meeting as it will have to be during a FREE weekend or some such offer. My son-in-law says I can meet men by hanging at the local bar or restaurant and trading on my looks. I am not sure about all this, but figured I would give it a try.
I am a Strong Catholic. I am looking for a long term relationship. I do not want to date someone who swears and curses at every little life experience. I do not mind a few cuss words from time to time, but as a general habit I do not want to date someone with a filthy mouth. I was granted an annulment from the Catholic Church after a long term marriage. If you are a person who uses drugs, is alcoholic, smokes or has gained 40 plus pounds I am not interested in you. The weight has become an issue as I have dated men who gained 50 to 110 pounds after we were together. This includes my ex husband. I myself need to lose 20 pounds so I understand what it is to be middle aged and subject to medical drama. I am currently working on this as I do not want my weight to become a medical threat. I have some post grad studies at UCSF Medical College. Generally I do not date doctors, but maybe I should take a chance. I date men in the trades as well as professionals. I want someone who is a gentleman. I am tired of the lack of manners and morals out there.
I am honest, warm and caring. Everyone who knows me, especially at work, refers to me as sweetie or sweetheart. I lived at the Campbell Los Gatos border most of my life and am considering returning there. Currently I am in the central valley. I have family in San Jose and the Modesto area so that is why I live where I do. My two daughters are grown. I have two grandchildren ages 6 and 9 years old.
I graduated from the University of San Francisco.
One other thing I would like to find in a date would be that we both enjoy wine. My last boyfriend could not drink wine and it is nice to be able to order a bottle of wine at a nice restaurant. He did drink fuzzy navels and margaritas, never more than one. Enough about that he is well in the past.
I would like to take up golf again. I have not had the time for years so I am now a rank beginner.