Date men and women from United States / California / Lathrop, 39 year old

Date a soulmate from Lathrop, United States. I am a strong, capable woman. I want someone who can take charge, but can also step back and let me lead. I need a partner that can be the man that he says he is. My partner must have values & honor them. I am looking for someone who is mutually monogamous, not a player. He is the safe place that I can share my desires. I will be the same for him. He must be able to laugh & enjoy the simple joys of life as well as the finer things. I can be very serious, but can be a big goofball, too! I have learned to laugh at myself over the years and to try to learn from my mistakes. I am a Leo with a southern upbringing; therefore, I truly enjoy treating my partner like a king & he should respect me as his queen.
I work very hard & provide quite well for myself. I want a partner, not someone to foot the bill. What someone does for a living pales in comparison to the person they are and how they live their life. Integrity & character are of the utmost importance. I hold myself to the same standard and know that without these things, a relationship is built on quicksand and is destined to fail.
On the lighter side, I love to laugh & make the most of a day off. Laughing until your sides ache is the best ab workout of all! I see lots of drama & chaos at work, so as little drama at home as possible is my goall. Life is far too short to sweat the small stuff.
If any of this sounds like you, then maybe we should talk!
My ideal mate is someone that I can laugh with, talk to about my day & who will tell me about his. He will challenge me physically & not let me win. He will encourage me in my endeavors & support me through my failures. He will be my best friend. Most importantly, is that all that he offers to me, he allows me to give back in return.