Date women from United States / California / Tustin, 38 year old

Date a soulmate from California, United States. For the last eight years I focused my time and attention on my work at the cost of having no social life. It's more than time that I establish a better balance between work and fun and make myself available to find someone special. I am looking for a man who is stable, knows his place in life, and is ready for a relationship.
There are multiple facets to my personality, from being fairly reserved to being comfortable as the center of attention. I enjoy social gatherings but also find comfort at home. I find that being with someone you enjoy means more than the activity with which you are engaged.
I am educated but well grounded with a wickedly sarcastic since of humor. I crave intellectual stimulation embedded with humor and sarcasm. Bantering can be a turn on when done tactfully.
You almost always will see me with a smile on my face. I tend to be an optimist and often see something positive in the most challenging of situations. I try not to complain without having a suggestion for change. However, when I have a rough day, a supportive commiseration is always appreciated. I am quite level headed and rarely get angry. I try to have fun in whatever I do…or at least make the most of any situation.
I am a Type A personality and am looking for someone who can settle my controlling tendencies so that I can let go, relax, and not have to feel like I always need to be in control. That said, I am not looking for someone to control me but rather allow me to feel safe so that I'm not so guarded. When I feel safe, my softer side emerges and I become more open and affectionate. As a Type A, I tend to stick to routine and intellectualize everything (thinker versus feeler) so I want someone who will introduce me to new experiences that leads to an emotive reaction, whether it be a conversation, a physical interaction, a fun activity, a tear jerker movie, or a good piece of music.
I want a man who's no longer into playing games as these games can be intellectually exhausting, emotionally draining, and a waste of time. Also, I have somewhat of a competitive streak, which has not served me well in the past as I've outplayed what could have been budding relationships, so I need a man who's willing to be vulnerable, honest with his feelings, and let it be known if he likes me or not. I want a guy who's emotionally available and willing to express what it is he wants. I'm ready for an intimate relationship with a man who's ready for an intimate relationship.