Date men and women from United States / California / West Sacramento, 45 year old

Date a soulmate from California, United States. June Cleaver in pearls and a dress with high heels standing at the front door with your slippers in hand, and dinner on the table, you will not get with me. I'll be in jeans and a T shirt. :)
However, if you are looking for someone who can put a smile on your face or make you laugh so hard your face hurts, I may interest you. I want someone who can make me laugh just as hard but also have a great conversation with. This of course, is just a fraction of what we are both looking for.
There are some things I'd like to add - I've been divorced for 16 years and have had 2 serious relationships within that time lasting about 3 - 4 years each. I'm not a game player, nor do I bar hop. I expect the person I am involved with to not play games, lie, cheat and above all be dishonest with himself. Because if he is, how can he be honest with anyone else in his life?
Another thing - I am curvy/about average. This does not mean I am huge or divalicous 42-40-46, I am no where near that. I am proud of my curves and will defend them every way I can. Our profiles allow us to click only one description but I feel it's all relative. The pictures I have posted are all recent within the past year - no graduation of 20 years ago, or pre children pics. Yes, I have two teenagers who are very important to me.
If you've gotten this far, thank you for divulging, I really appreciate it. The following is from my original profile:
I'm an honest person who, sometimes, is described as having a broken filter teetering on sarcastic. I can be hard and difficult at times, but what girl couldn't - and if one tells you she isn't, well...sure, we'll go with that.
There is another side to me that sees an elderly couple that makes me pause and reflect. I see them holding hands, even bickering "What?!" and I often wonder if I will have what they have when I'm their age. I hope so, and if you feel that way as well, who knows what can become of it?
Throwing my hair up in a pony tail and some jeans with a beer is just as comfortable as dressing to the Nines with a glass of champagne. I'm a mean cook and baker who likes to read, play softball and swim. NASCAR gets me giddy and football gets me focused. I have written one book and am in the process of writing another.
I adore my family and surround myself with good, caring friends who keep me grounded. I'm looking for someone who has the same outlook in life as I do and one who isn't afraid to laugh at himself. Life is too short to take seriously, we should enjoy what is around us.
If you like to travel with someone by your side; enjoy crisp mornings with a cup of coffee in hand and stimulating your mind by learning something new we have something in common.
"What" and "if" are two unobtrusive words. But put them together - "what if" and it takes on a powerful meaning. If my profile interests you, I look forward to hearing from you. Don't allow "what if" to stop you from reaching out.

Meet men and women from California, United States. Fully energized after my 10 preferred hours of sleep, I can be sharp, thoughtful and a pretty good communicator. My best friend would probably say I'm responsible & reliable but also a lot of fun and maybe a little wild. I have a fearless streak in me that creeps out every now and then.
I have a great career with a company I've been proud to work with for over 12 years. No day is the same and I always work in different locations, so it's never monotonous. But that also makes it a little tougher get to know many people...(one of the reasons I've tried this method of meeting someone).
I have 4 kids...2 grown and 2 in elementary...all awesome and what I'm most grateful for! The 2 younger ones split time between home and their dad's house, so I have time for someone special, on top of being able to mostly decide my own schedule. I'm originally from Southern CA and came to Nor Cal for the river rafting and never left. I miss the beaches, but for me, the river wins over.
I would definitely love to have a relationship with just one person that I can get to know over time and be close with. I really appreciate guys with the confidence to lead the way and call the shots. If you love hanging out with friends...mine and your own...and can be genuinely fun and comfortable in your own skin...then that is a serious plus! I love doing many things...both physically active and relaxing. But I'm not the girl who is going to eagerly blast out of bed at 4am excited to run some marathon! Just not my thing... I will, however, get up and go hiking, rafting or swimming with you all day...and I CAN last all day...but the sun must be up first and only after coffee!
Good family relationships are pretty important to me along with open communication and loyalty. I'm also not the type to date in
multiples! If I like someone enough to go out with them, then I like them enough to give myself and them the respect of a fair shot, without added distractions or split priorities. I'm not looking to fill time, but truly want one special person for a lasting relationship.
Anyway, enough for now! Please send a message if anything here strikes your interest :-)