Date men and women from United States / California / Stevenson Ranch, 43 year old

Date people from Stevenson Ranch, United States. Now, about me, LOL:
There's nothing I love more than laughing ... Well, that's not exactly true ... My children come first ... They are my heart and soul. I'm honest, loyal, a great friend, forgiving, and able to laugh at myself. I am also extremely out-going. I know who I am and am able to get up very quickly once down. I chose to look at life optimisically and strive to be the best I can be. I love living. My motto, so to speak, is to dream big and follow through as BEST you can ... THAT is success!
People keep writing me who are VERY athlectic and outdoors men ... Camping? If its in a cabin, fine, LOL! Its not really my 'thing' and although I love being out doors and active, I don't work out more than walking and yoga on occasion.
About the one I'm looking for...
I'm in the entertainment industry, do love kicking back and if this is of no interest to you, we're probably not a good match; Unless you can make up for it with an open mind. I want someone eduacated who has a fabulous sense of humor and enjoys all kinds of food. I love EATING! LOL! I cook, but baking isn't my strong point. If you can deal with a cake tasting great but looking like meatloaf, you'll love my every attempt. If you can bake, I'll cook!
I'm looking for someone who is honest and secure with himself. I want a man who wants to communicate. If we're not partners, I don't see the point. PLEASE make sure you live w/in 40 miles of me! If you're not showing your picture I won't repond as what I'm doing is trying this method to cut through hassle and matching up w/someone in an easier way than going out and being set up. I'm very supportive and I'm looking for someone who will have my back, too (no matter what). Basically, I want someone who I can just be me with who feels they can do the smae.
I'd just like to add...
I want romance, but not anything contrived. I want you to feel like you can be you with me. I hate cheesy one liners, but I love a spontaneous well thought out date ... I'm as happy on a night out in a huge city as I am sitting by a quiet lake. Also, I love children. My ideal man will know what he wants by knowing what he DOESN'T want. If you're a single dad and want to seriously do it right THIS time, then I want the same. No slackers, liers, racists or men who don't believe in manning up, please ;-) I want someone fun, secure, and ambituois.
A little more about me...
OK, I've been getting all these emails from all over the USA. I need someone who lives close because I have kids and work from home for their sake. If you live farther, you'll have to come to me. I just changed my setting and hope it worked ... That's why I wanted to check this out :-). So please only email if we can actually meet. I'm on here to cut through to an easy and hopefully honest way of meeting. Please, as I don't want to insult ANYONE, respect that unless you're near, I probably won't respond to you as I don't want to waste anyones time ;-)
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I want someone who KNOWS what they want ... NO MORE games. I'm looking for that pefect click ... 'magic.' I married the wrong man. I will never marry again unless I meet the right man. He must be secure in himself without being overly cocky. His job must be steady and one that he looks forward to. I want the big picture. A merge of two people who have been there, done that. In order for that to happen, this man MUST be able to laugh at himself and his hardships. I want a fun, loving partner who will also love my two children as he does his own.
Ambition, loyalty, honesty, quick wit, and not only eduacted, but someone who loves to learn more about life, how things work and out of the box thinking is very important to me. Life is too short .... Enjoy it and make it work as best you can! Accepting ignorance as an excuse in avoiding isn't enough for this girl! I believe in making the best out of everything and without knowledge, I don't see how that's entirely poss