Date men and women from United States / California / National City, 49 year old

Date a soulmate from National City, United States. Well, this is my story...
I was with what I thought would be my life long companion. We were together for off and on 10 years, and she wore my engagement ring for the last two years of our relationship. As far as I knew, everything was going well, and I thought she was happy. My father died last July, and I called my fiancee and asked her to come over to help with my Mom. My parents were Married for 60 years.
8 hours after my father died, my fiancee, tells me that she needs to take a break for a little bit, and after a short conversation, she agrees to stay around long enough for my Dad's funereal for the sake my of boys, my Mom and me. As soon as the funereal over a few days later, she's gone, no explaination, nothing. Found out through facebook freinds, two weeks later that she is in Hawaii with some guy she dated back in High School, which is why the big rush to leave. So it's a year later, and I'm trying this match.com thing, but it's not working.
Several of you ladies have sent me a wink or an e-mail, and then after I respond with a very safe and friendly response, I hear nothing back. The one who did respond back try to con me out of money within a few short days of conversation with her. I'll probably be leaving Match.com when my 3 months is over. it should would be nice to meet a good woman.
Below is my original post- thanks!
I have been happily divorced since 1999, and for the last 4 years, I have been both Mom and Dad, as both of my boys live with me. They are 18 / 21., While I have had a few relationships in the last 12 years, I still have not found the right one. I'm looking for that woman-girl. A woman who knows what she wants, who doesn't play games, but yet is still a girl at heart who wants to explore and have fun.
I'm looking for someone, who is sexy in her own way, without having to fake it. Looks good in jeans, as well as the little black dress. Someone who Loves the beach and the outdoors, movies, can cook, and likes being cooked for. Not demanding, doesn't like to fight. No drunks, No drugs, No abusive personality. Has manners, not easily offended by jokes and teasing. Can give it, as much as take it. and she is simply looking for a nice guy who cares, is loyal, who will defend her, and will love her.
I spend alot of time in the great outdoors, because of my chosen profession and my hobbies. I have only a few close friends, but I generally get along with everyone. I love to cook and eat out. I enjoy movies music, and just trying to live a simple life. I enjoy getting out and exploring new places throughout California and Arizona. I am spontanteous, especially about just taking off for a weekend to Santa Barbara, Catalina Island, or Monterey, so if your willing to share in the adventure, I'm here and ready to go.