Date men from United States / California / Mission Hills, 46 year old

Date a man from California, United States. From what I've been told a lot of guys on here aren't 100% honest about what they truly look like - old or totally fake photos, aren't honest about their employment status or their age. Sad isn't it! That being the case I'm going to go against convention here and lay all my proverbial cards on the table for you - or at least try to answer most of the questions that I regularly receive here.
Lets start with my photos - if a photo isn't current I tell you in the caption - most are pretty current.
Ok lets talk about employment - I've been a senior paralegal with a small law firm downtown for the last 12 years. I specialize in construction defect and personal injury defense work. While my job is very intellectually stimulating on a day to day basis in all honesty I'm not fully content with what I'm doing. I want to be my own boss at some point and I'm exploring various options including possibly going to law school in order to achieve that goal.
Now in regard to my age - I'm actually 46 years old. I need to explore this site a little bit to figure out how I screwed up on my age when I signed up. For the most part I don't think I look my age and I certainly don't act my age most of the time. I'm very young soul - constantly playing around and doing my best to enjoy life to its fullest. They say "you're only as old as you feel" and I guess there's some truth in that although I think we can all agree that the sooner or later you'll start to feel your age.
What's next - ahh yes - 46 years old and never married - what's up with that? Well I've had a few long term relationships one of which led to an engagement it just didn't lead to marriage. Fortunately before we got that far we found out that we had some insurmountable differences in our views on some very important subjects like faithfulness / fidelity. Contrary to what you might think I'm not adverse to marriage or commitment phoebic. I want to meet the right person, fall in love and get married. If kids are a possibility too then that'd be awesome.
And the final subject of my little endeavor is smoking - I must admit that I'm occasionally have a smoke. Typically when I've had a few drinks. I know its nasty right! I'm trying not to do it but when I get a few drinks in me it still happens. If I'm out with you I can abstain and I'd certainly ask you if you minded before I just whipped one out. So there you go - full disclosure.
I guess if you got through all that and you still haven't clicked away then I should tell you who I'm looking to meet. I'm looking for someone who's not afraid to be who they really are - as most of us know it's not always easy to let it all hang out. Keeping with my honesty theme - I have to be physically attracted to you. If your friends describe you as obnoxious then we're not likely to be a match. I'm a fairly relaxed guy so if you're high stress, high maintenance or regularly caught up in drama then I'm probably not your guy. Other than that I'd hope that you'd be as comfortable in a little black dress as in jeans and would understand that you should act like a lady in front of my family and co-workers.
So - who's real? If its you send me an email and lets get off this silly site!