Date men and women from United States / California / Arcadia, 61 year old

Date a man from California, United States. I am positive, creative and contemplative. I like to go with the flow, and prefer to be around people that are spontaneous, compassionate, and easy going. My sense of humor is sometimes silly and sometimes subtle. I am a sucker for a pretty smile, and like people that laugh easily.
Over the past several years, I've been working on being able to better control my thoughts, words and actions so I can be more at peace, smile easily, and laugh often. I am not traditional in my thinking, and believe that too rigid a structure stifles creativity. I am liberal in my convictions, and think that my outlook is unique.
My vision of a peaceful place involves palm trees, a hammock, shade, a cool breeze, the sound of waves or a brook, the person I love next to me, a good book (typically nonfiction), and a good drink (depending on the season).
My concept of fun would include a golf course, or places that excite the senses - such as - a museum, a farmers' market, a jazz or blues club, a hole-in-the-wall place that serves flavorful food, a sporting event, or just aimlessly walking through a place filled with interesting things. I prefer intimate settings, and feel that two people could share intimate moments even in a crowded jazz club, or, exchange glances at a party that only two people who know can.
My love for my sons and their families is unconditional.
I've also lived in India, France and Canada; and have worked on projects in Africa (Ghana) and China (Shanghai). People have been extremely gracious regardless of where I've lived or traveled. I greatly enjoy talking with people about their interests and passions - and have found that most people are fun to talk with.
I am drawn to and generally identify with eastern philosophies such as Vedanta / Upanishads (India - Hindu), Tao (Chinese), and Zen (Buddhist / Japanese). These primarily focus on working on ones thoughts to achieve peace of mind, live in the present, and not worry so much about outcomes. Things have a tendency to work out for the best. This allows me to be honest, trustworthy, and most importantly myself.
I believe in the quote (and I'm paraphrasing) - Serenity is the ability to change what you can, to accept what you can't, and to know the difference.
The person I'm looking for would smile easily, think I'm funny (very important - ha ha), understand why I think the way I do, and adore me. I promise to do the same in return. I am attracted to a woman who is self-assured, intelligent, has varied interests, is open minded, compassionate, and liberal. I like the nurturing / soft quality in a woman. I also choose to be with people who are positive, fun to be with, who go with the flow, and are not aggressive. I would rather lead and be led gently by the hand than yanked by the neck. The same goes for all other aspects of a relationship.
I don't believe a lot in mores that make you hide your true thoughts. I'm not afraid to let a woman know that she has a pretty smile or a great profile (at Match). If after the first date, I can't wait to get back together, I won't wait for 3 days to call her back. I will lay my thoughts out in an honest manner. So, if you read an email from me that shares my thoughts with you, please know that it's true and comes from the heart.

Meet someone special from California, United States. THIS "GIRL NEXT DOOR" TYPE IS WISHING FOR:
A man who is honest in his approach to life. Someone with a strong moral compass. A great friendship that will effortlessly evolve into a passionate, fun and committed lifelong relationship. I'm not looking for casual dating. Someone to be very comfortable with. Someone I can't wait to see. I have a realistic sense of who I am and who I'm not. Am an affable, down-to-earth, emotionally intelligent, adaptable person with a full heart - own up to mistakes when I make them and try to learn from them the first time. If I feel good inside about who looks back at me in the mirror, then it's been a worthwhile day.
Enjoy creating a welcoming home, entertaining, eclectic cooking, believe doing little things to spoil my partner is important and, at the same time, remembering that our families and friends are vital to us (I feel it important that we both take time to be with our respective friends, too).
I enjoy many diverse things that I'd love to share with someone special. Anything from sporting events, all sorts of museums, gardening,cultural events, travel that takes in breathtaking countryside (but I'm also a city girl at heart and love the energy that only cities can ignite), laughing out loud til it hurts or you can't breathe, losing yourself in a bookstore, curling up in your arms, watching a movie that does nothing less than stir your soul, walking with our fingers intertwined, or reading the Sunday paper over cups of great coffee. Sometimes just "being" with that special someone is highly underrated.
I am honored and humbled to be the mom to my 3 kids (21, 19 and 14) who have taught me so much of what it means to be human. They live with me full-time, although the eldest is rarely home anymore and is planning his "escape" from the nest, and my middle son is most often off with friends, so someone who is not intimidated but embraces family life is the kind of man I'd love to meet. I don't want a rescuer for me or dad to my kids, but instead a partner for me and, ideally, friend to them. If you have children, either at home or away, it's important they be on board with you wanting a significant other in your life. I've been asked numerous times how my kids are when there's a man in my life and my answer is: terrific! They've been my biggest cheerleaders. They're supportive about my dating, weekends away, etc. and have their own social circles which they usually prefer over spending time with mom!
Look forward to crossing paths with a man who lives words like truth, reciprocity, kindness, humility and generosity of spirit. Your appearance is important to you but you're not hung up on it. No addictions of any kind. I take care of myself in mind, body and spirit (not obsessively) and hope you do, too. Taking the time to have a very healthy, sensual and romantic relationship needs to be important as well. Please be someone who has the Desire and Time to invest in creating an enviable relationship.
"Romantic opportunity is rarely accompanied by orchestra music and cinematic grandeur. Most often it arrives in ordinary moments. To notice it, we've got to be paying attention."

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