Date men and women from United States / Arkansas / Oakland, 42 year old

Date single man from Oakland, United States. Aloha,
I'm a fun down-to-earth guy living in the East Bay just looking to meet new people and expand my already super awesome circle of friends. Yes, a new lover is always nice, but I what I really want to find is my best friend for what's left of this beautiful existence that I'm lucky enough to experience. I deeply believe that love -- and all the entanglements surrounding it -- is fluid in nature and thus is forever evolving. Hence, I am seeking a very open minded person who is looking for the same. Ideally, I celebrate your independence and respect your abilities and strengths. But you also recognize my need to be the man in your life: the one who opens doors for you, pays for your dinner, and is there to support your not-so-strong qualities as well. Put another way, you value "inter-dependence" and see me as much as an equal partner as I do you.
I'm still a kid at heart, but I'm for sure a grown-up. I work a lot and am very busy building my future so I don't have time for games or drama. I'm done with clubs and bars and the 'scene'. I am: responsible, loyal, trustworthy, very open and honest about a lot of things (sometimes painfully so), hard-working, career focused, mature, respectful, passionate and values-driven, ambitious (but not for material wealth), and an all around awesome guy (for the right woman).
I value: kindness, compassion, empathy, ethics OVER morality, love, education (more specifically, the desire to always learn), open-mindedness, kindred spirits, youthful souls, a flexible disposition, innate curiosity, and a diplomatic approach to conflict resolution.
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"They say that the shortest path between two points is a straight line. But what happens if that path gets blocked? When sediment impedes the flow of a river, it redirects… zigging and zagging instead of follwoing a straight course. What looks to the crow like meandering, is to the water the most efficient route from source to outlet. Nature finds a detour.
When two points are destined to touch, but a direct connection is imposible… the universe will always find another way.
If two points are destined to touch … the universe will always find a way to make the connection. Even when all hope seems lost … certain ties cannot be broken. They define who we are. And who we can become. Across space … across time … along paths we cannot predict … nature always finds a way.”
From "Touch"
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Meet a man from Oakland, United States. Literate
Quirky
Reflective
Searching
Sophisticated
Witty
Complex
Humorous
Refined/Mannered
Sardonic
Wry
Okay, so, technically speaking, since these are adjectives pulled from a music review site about Joe Jackson, so they aren't,
technically, written about me. But, since I think they do a really good job at capturing, as well as a bunch of adjectives can describe anybody,
are a pretty good start.
I am irreverent yet playful.
I do not describe myself in dualities.
I work for myself as an entrepreneur/educator/creativity generator.
Previously I was a writer living in the east village of Manhattan.
I have written essays and plays and even got two of my plays produced, both romantic comedies - in Manhattan.
I was courted to be one of the few
"male" writers on "Sex And The City",
and although I didn't make the cut,
the fact that I almost made the cut,
is really, if you use denial just enough,
realize is exactly the same thing.
Except without the paycheck.
Or the experience.
Or anything.
But other than that...
As Winston Churchill wrote:
"Success Is Going From Failure
To Failure Without Losing Enthusiasm."
Without failure, life would be so boring.
I have been told that I am quite witty, clever and funny, (though not much of that is evident here, apparently).
You want to find yourself with someone who can be quite playful, provocatively affectionate, easy going but with definite preferences.
Because you enjoy sarcasm and east coast wit.
Because you know that being teased is actually a sign of respect and don't consider yourself ironically deficient.
You like sparkly eyes.
You like kissing, a lot.
And to answer your question:
As a matter of fact,
I do have a master's degree in spooning.
Not to brag, but, if you like being held before you go to sleep, and if you don't mind being kissed between your shoulders,
you might not find my talents without worth.
And, between the kissing and the spooning,
you yearn for things both sweet and strong,
well, you might enjoy me for that as well.
If all or any of that works for you we could have a glass of wine together and see.

Date people from Oakland, United States. A few years ago, out of the blue, a friend asked me what superhero I am. Superhero??!! I said Persistence. Now I feel more like Cassandra (who saw the future that no one believed). Can you guess what I do? ... I recently finished a PhD in international climate change policy. I havenРІР‚в„ўt yet saved the world, and youРІР‚в„ўre probably (hopefully) not looking for a superhero. In my normal life I most love biking, dancing, hiking, rock climbing, cooking dinners with friends, good conversation, unplanned Sundays, and learning almost anything. My entire family does tai chi, which I never would have predicted from the east coast suburbs 20 years ago. There is something magical about it that I donРІР‚в„ўt understand but am starting to feel. IРІР‚в„ўm fascinated with understanding other places. When I travel I most love seeing into peopleРІР‚в„ўs everyday lives and struggles. IРІР‚в„ўm lucky to have been able to live and work in a number of countries, most recently in India. I'm a good friend. I like living simply, and don't understand selfishness.
I would love to meet someone who is kind, smart, curious and warm, and in big or small ways, is working to make the world a better place. ItРІР‚в„ўs important for me to be with someone who understands why the current state of this country scares me and why I had trouble listening to the Republican primary debates for more than a few minutes at a time. And much less political, life feel like it's meant to be shared and the most beautiful and romantic things are the small everyday things done together.
What are others saying?
*Real quotes from friends and family!
“She’s a great catch!”
--Friend and award-winning novelist
“You’re very present. And you laugh easily.” “You should also write that you’re great with kids.”
--Good friend, highschool theater teacher, and a mom
“She has amazing integrity.”
--Good friend and fellow activist scholar
"Whenever I walk out the door with you I feel like I'm about to go on an adventure."
--Good friend and ex-housemate

Meet a soulmate from Oakland, United States. I am a traditional woman who is family oriented, caring, loyal and dependable. I grew up in a happy and loving family, and became very independent since I moved to the US to pursue my higher education. I am easy going, fun loving and enjoy simple life styles. Some of my hobbies include music, dance, nature, and travel. I was a competitive swimmer in college, and like to keep active. You will know more about me when we meet. I am looking for a wonderful man who is kind, intelligent and responsible. If you are a great catch, then let's meet soon!

Date someone special from Oakland, United States. It's about chemistry, compatibility and perception. It doesn't really matter what I say here, you will have your own opinions in the end. I don't happen to have a profession or a lifestyle that has me meeting terrific available men all the time so I've thrown myself into the soulmate soup. Every few months, or years. I find myself revisiting these online dating sites. I am not a follower of social networking of the virtual variety. It sort of flies in the face of my values like privacy, humility, honesty, modesty and being present in the moment. I always wanted to believe that the universe at large would manage my love life. It appears to have shelved the topic for the duration.
A damn shame really. I'm a terrific gal. I've got my act together. I take care of myself and act responsibly towards others. Great wit. Killer intuition. Good listener. Laid back but motivated. Straight shooter. Salt-of-the-earth-girlie-girl. Cute as a button. Generous lover. Debt-free and gainfully self-employed. Resourceful. Tactful. Mostly fearless. Fun and outgoing. Appreciative and kind. Well read. Intelligent. Observant. Okay, I'm bored with myself already.
I simply miss being in love, the intimacy and surprises. Having someone care how my day went. Someone to cook for. To look nice for. Laughter and love-making. Trust, respect, understanding. I am just a down-to-earth woman, both simple and complex. A genuine person wanting to fulfill a basic need in the modern world. Wish me luck.

Meet a woman from Arkansas, United States. Im happy with whom i am, n happier for whom i am becoming. I Love my Life, I'm very fortunate to have a large great family
(11, siblings) a small but great true circle of friends ( many, many aquaintances). I been very fortunate to have traveled w much freedom time to explore n learn about other people/countries n ethnic cultures, which has changed my World. I look forward to meeting that special someone who is open minded, enjoys having a conversation, n appreciates Life , not for what he has, but for what he is becoming with each day.

Date men and women from Arkansas, United States. Fun former Ecoast girl looking for a guy who is mellow, sarcastic, politically left, drama free with a great sense of humor.
Me- Sassy, a little sarcastic, sports savvy, brown/brown. I love to go out and try new adventures, as much as stay in and do the crossword on sunday. I'm low maintenance, hate putting on makeup and nylons, but love sassy high heeled shoes. Although these days, I practically live in my cowboy boots. I love sports, dive bars, camping, hiking, catching fireflies on warm summer nights
You: taller than me, fun, romantic, willing to try any new adventure, like to go as much as you like to stay in, be okay with doing your own thing as much as spending time together, like sports, like politics have/want/like dogs, and don't drink Coors.
I try to go and see music as much as possible. I have been told people can be categorized into two groups: stones or beatles....I'm a stones girl (and Keith over Mick when it comes to the glimmer twins). Otherwise, I'm into americana, (aka alt. country), and old school rock, really most everything except rap and hiphop. I also try to stay aware of whats happening politically (I'm a lefty liberal). And generally, I cant help myself from stopping to pet/talk to dogs on the street. Love baseball and beer in the summer, either in the stadium or from a comfy couch.
I'm a straight forward, non-game playing girl. I'm a Diehard REDSOX fan, and fairly opinionated, but tons of fun!
I have a lot of friends, i'm looking for more than just a fun guy to hang out with and have beers on any given night (but you should be down for that as well!) I want to travel, have some great adventures that aren't scripted, and am looking for someone who wants to go. I need coffee in the morning, but I can read a map and drive for long distances as long as their is a good playlist on the car stereo, and most days I'll talk to anyone. Ready?!!

Meet people from Arkansas, United States. I'm looking for a new best friend.
Someone who is both interested in getting to know all about a partner and willing to explore more about himself. Someone who values spending time more than spending money.
It would be great if you had practical skills (like building and fixing things), because even though I like being self-sufficient, I'm not sure that I can fix as many thinks as I think I can.
You like spending time outdoors, appreciate nature, large dogs and ecological innovation. You also enjoy cooking with your partner.
You've lived a real life, have some real scars, and are better for it!

Date a soulmate from Arkansas, United States. Okay, I have decided to try the whole online dating thing. I am not sure if this is me stepping up to the plate or hitting bottom when it comes to finding someone, but luckily, I am able to laugh at myself, which is one of my best qualities. And, to be honest, enough people in my life have been saying, "You're so great. Get back into the dating game already and put yourself out there again!" So maybe I am here out of duress to some degree. I mean, I am happy with the life that I have created for myself. I have amazing friends, hobbies, and enjoy quiet evenings at home, reading a book or watching a marathon session of "Breaking Bad" on Netflix. But would I like to find a partner to share my life with? Sure. Most definitely. So here it goes. Three breaths in and out. One. Two. Three...
About me:
I love big dogs. Golden Retrievers. Bloodhounds. Great Danes. If they weigh more than I do, I squeal like an eight year old. I am not looking to have children, but I would love to raise a puppy with someone.
Some of my favorite movies include American Beauty, Buffalo '66, Salmon Fishing on the Yemen, Fargo, Go, Big Fish and A beautiful Mind.
Some of my favorite books are Dry, Middlesex, Gone with the Wind, Life of Pi, East of Eden, and A Fine Balance.
I am what you would call a "late bloomer". I was that girl in high school who dressed in all black and read "The Bell Jar" and who people now find on Facebook and say, "Wow! I can't believe this is actually you!" I really am like a fine wine. I just get better and better with age.
I am an office administrator by day, but present classes on unique topics as well as write a column. My "day job" pays my bills. Presenting and writing is my passion and career. Hopefully someday I will be able to quit the day job, although I do enjoy the people and organization that I currently work with and for.
Children and animals love me. The feeling is mutual.
I enjoy a healthy lifestyle. I work out at least five times a week. Lately, I have become addicted to spin classes. I eat really healthy. Coffee, however, is a whole other issue. Hey, we all gotta have a vice or two, right?
I believe that physical chemistry is important but that shared values and emotional, intellectual and spiritual connection are even more crucial for a lasting relationship. Because hey, after we both are no longer stoned out of our minds from all of that Dopamine and Norepinephrine swirling around in our bodies, we are going to need something to actually work with, right? Have I mentioned that I am both a romantic and a realist?
I have an amazing smile. It gets me out of (and into!) a lot of trouble.
I am a girlie girl but I also love to wear combat boots.
I am anything but "ordinary" and can be described as "alternative" and "open-minded" in nature, but I am also an old fashioned girl at heart. Chivalry is a turn on.
I love farmers markets, independent film, writing, and reading.
I am not sure if all of these twentysomethings who are contacting me on POF and telling me that they are into "cougars" and think that I am "really hot" should make me feel flattered or insulted. Maybe both?
I am an introvert who passes for an extrovert. I love to be social, but I also value my "alone time".
In order to get my co-workers to actually read my emails, I always write some "off the wall" haiku at the end.
I am a sucker for men who wear converse shoes or suits. Wearing these two things together would actually be a plus in my book.
I tend to be cautious but am working on being more adventurous. Example: I am terrified of heights and sharks, so I am considering taking up scuba andor skydiving.
I am loyal, passionate, sensitive, wonderful sense of humor and can be downright feisty at times.
Chosen family is really important to me.
When I am feeling overwhelmed, I like to take walks on the beach and watch the waves come in and out. It helps me put things in perspective, reali

Meet someone special from Arkansas, United States. I'm looking for someone who is playful at heart, doesn't mind that I can swear like a sailor when called for and who can go toe-to-toe with me in the sarcasm department. Yoi should be a good conversationalist and be totally contented chilling with me over dinner and drinks. I love zipping up to the wine country and so should you. I'm looking for a great, loyal, non-fickle friend who I can build a meaningful, long-term relationship with.
I moved back to the Bay Area in November and my social circle is small. I'm looking to expand that. Must be GD (geographically desirable).
I enjoy cooking, baking and great wine. I watch way too many cooking-themed shows but it is what it is. I recently started making Limoncello and my next spirit-related project is going to be making Tonic Water. *Exciting,* I know. :)

Date a woman from United States. simple person who lives one day at a time. i love being with my family and friends. they're my life..i love life!
i could fall for everyone who treats me special...but i want to be assured that at the end of the day...i will be on my way home to the one who treats me as his LIFE.

Meet men and women from United States. I am a serious lady that works and goes to school, but I enjoy having fun like going to restaurants, going to spas, listening to live music or hanging out with friends. I love working out and healthy eating but if we splurge on ice cream that's cool too.