Date a woman from United States. I'm expressive and I now know I am most compatible and happy with a liberal expressive person. You don't have to cry every time the sunsets to be expressive. But talk to me when something is bothering you. And please listen, BUT, If I'm talking about something that bores you just SAY SO. That's cool. But don't pretend or I may go on for hours. LOL.
Men and women are different. "communication" for women is different than "communication" for men. I believe we see and interpret the world differently. Men want to fix a problem. Women, more often, want to talk about it, then maybe we'll fix it or maybe we will approach it some other way. So much can be fixed with saying "sorry". Because sometimes it is the thought that counts.
Recent major surgery, hysterectomy, working off the weight after 5 -- sedentary years studying in law school and for the bar exam. (yes that is longer than it is supposed to take). So exercise (gotta work off a stomach and a big butt) and work are my two new priorities
but looking for a person to go out with, hiking, exercise, talking about everything: religion, poverty, politics, ethics, meaning of right and wrong.
I've been separated for 10 years; and he and I have a friendly supportive relationship. We love our daughter and she is away at college. She as tamed three wild Mustanges from the BLM. So we have some horses.
My sense of humor is sarcastic and I don't get offended easily unless you just really try hard.
So, I want to start the second part of my life with some new friends or someone special who is cautiously spontaneous. I like my routine but I like an unexpected adventure also. Cheap or expensive hotels, drive to a new place without plans. Sitting at an airport bar and meeting new people who are traveling places. Hearing stories of their lives. Really talking. I'm kinda quirky and a little zanny. My job can be stressful especially since my career is just beginning. I need a break and a diversion from too much reality.
My last two favorite hotels were Royal Inn in La Grande Oregon, $45/night and Pensacola $475/night. It's about who I'm with. I DONT watch TV. But that doesn't mean I can't watch 4 hours of HBO's The Wire on DVD or the Good Wife. But regular CABLE hell, no. I don't think I have ever watched more than 20 minutes of football and I think I was drunk that time (Alabama Auburn 1992).
I love my daughter and also enjoy other people's children. Especially high school age kids, in my next life I want to be a high school counselor --
I think my friends would say I am a good listener and a fiercely loyal friend. I hope that is true.
Music saves my day, here is a range of interests
Tom Petty, Marylin Manson, Rage Against the Machine, Slip Knot,
Verdi, Bizet, Mozart, Hank Williams, Tupac. Led Zepplin,
Johnny Cash, Mel Tillis, Elton John, The Cars, Henry Rollins Band,
George Jones, Black Flag, Unbroken, local bands and concerts in dank hole in the wall places.
I DON"T LIKE CRAP RAP not because it's vulgar but b/c it all sounds the same, to me. There is no imagination in it.
FUN: A shot of tequila and a Guinness Draft in the afternoon in a small local bar in a new city. Conversation with the locals.
Went to Manhattan in 2000 and spent the morning in a local laundromat. Started talking to a woman who immigrated from Bavaria 30 years earlier. We spent an hour playing a game of clues till I could guess which country she was from. THAT was a cool day. and FREE :-)
Empty flattery shows an anterior motive. imo
Saying what I think I am is not reliable. Everyone seems to think they are fun, kind, compassionate, loving, good listeners and giving. Al Capone thought he was a humanitarian --- I believe these traits depend on the person I am with & are best discovered over time. I strive for these qualities but who knows....
Brand names are a waste of money
Everything sounds so cliche here.
Can't write this stuff.