Date men from United States / California / Ojai, 56 year old

Date a soulmate from Ojai, United States. I am a quiet, reserved person. That is not to say that I'm not fun, but I am a little slow to join the party. And speaking of parties, I recently celebrated my birthday, with 200 other people here at my ranch in Ojai. I am 38 (in hexadecimal). I meditate twice a day (PSM) and attend or work on staff at at least one, and usually more, Chopra Center meditation retreat(s) a year. This year I have already been to two and am going for a week of silence in September. I have done deep spiritual work and it shows, both in my behavior and my tattoos, haha.
I love the south shore of Maui; Kihei, Wailea, the ocean and scuba diving there. I collect marine art from the islands. I also like to swim laps. On the flipside, I love to snowboard (even though I suck at it) and I try to get on the mountain each season.
Professionally and spiritually; music is my life. I am intimately involved with the music industry every day, but I am not a musician or manager or studio engineer or wear a suit. I go to a lot of concerts, both for work and for fun. I am truly in my dharma of amplifying the healing power of music and in the last few years, with the help of Deepak, David and all my friends at The Chopra Center, I deepened my relationship to dharma in a big way. It is stunningly simple, powerful and fulfilling. I'd prefer not to explain here. How about in person if you're interested?
I like travel and adventures, but I'm not into extreme challenges. I like to go on active comfortable trips that include hiking/walking, swimming, scuba diving, snowboarding or other fun stuff, but not life-threatening or too uncomfortable. At the end of the day I want to be in a nice 4 or 5 star property with great food. I traveled for business for many years and circled the globe at least a dozen times.
I have just begun to travel NOT for work and went to Japan, South of France, Singapore, Thailand (Koh Phangan) and, of course Maui in the last year and a half. I hit Maui every year. I love traveling to Japan, been there over 20 times and always take an opportunity to go there again when it comes up, which in my business is often.
I lived with a lot of stress for many years, that's over. I want to be with someone fun, but relaxed, that also has a strong inner "fire". I like conversation but also appreciate moments that are better when not filled with words. No drama (observing something and making up a story to go with it), games or toxic baggage, life's too short. I love kids and they love me, but I don't think I want any more of my own.
As far as relationships and intimacy, I am a genuine article. I do not lie, keep secrets or other toxic forms of egoic behavior and cannot tolerate that in a relationship. To me, a genuine relationship, even just a good friendship, is an outward flow of attention toward the other person in which there is no wanting or needing. If you want to figure out if we're a 'match' before we're friends, trust me, we are not a match.
I am a lighthearted, kind, generous, sensitive and compassionate person, not aggressive or controlling. I have a good balance of masculine energy, which I embrace, and feminine energy, which I worship. I do not like to be alone too much or to be smothered. I can be both generous and selfish with pleasure as it suits the moment and take direction well, so speak up girl, my mind is my #1 erogenous zone.
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Meet a man from Ojai, United States. Updated 06/09/2012
Hello. I am healthy and ft, only 216 pounds at 6'5". I work out moderately several times a week. I am told that I am a very intelligent man, with intensity that is at first intimidating. Those who know me well also know that I am a deeply passionate man, who cares about the world he lives in. I have the intuition of an artist, the analytic depth of an engineer, the humor of a happy man, the focus of a laser, and the humility of a ... well.... I once read that if you try to practice humility, you have already not the ability. That can only come from lack of self-absorption. I regret that I do suffer the lot of too much time living alone. My struggle manifests in that I see tremendous capacity in humanity, that only a few really embrace. My patience grows weary with the laziness that is the widest margin of human life. I am here for a few short years, and I feel that only a small part of that should be spent in entertainment. We each have such amazing opportunity to love and live the many qualities given to us. I can take no credit for anything that I am, and while I live comfortably, to waste my energy with acquisition for security and meaning is not my orientation. I am talented in several ways and marginally successful, yet I have just started my real career.
I enjoy the simple things. These include orange blossoms, swimming, hikes, good red wine, cooking, data architecture, entrepreneurial brainstorming, entertaining and rich fellowship - the kind that comes from the deeply religious mind, not the following of organized belief and ritual.
I was a Hindu priest as a young man,and I have explored dimensions more than typical. I seem to require a brilliant woman to fall in love, along with that evasive chemistry for which we all have appetite.
These are my role models, who I adore, but not with blindness or personality cult. My life is made richer by knowing just a small part of the lives of each:
Leo Buscaglia
Mother Teresa
J. Krishnamurti
AC Bhaktivedanta
Thich Nhat Nanh
Lao Tzu
Steve Jobs
Fred Rogers
Finding enduring romance is instant for a few, and evasive for some of us. I have met many wonderful people here, and none has been my flame. Staying attentive to the opportunity before me allows an opening to perceive tremendous beauty before me, regardless of outcome.